Stacey Waller

Where am I? Discover Your Divorce Stage: 5-Minute Questionnaire

This questionnaire is designed to help you identify which stage you’re currently in during your divorce journey. Answer each question on a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 means "not at all" and 10 means "absolutely." Be as honest as possible for the most accurate results. Remember, this is for your self-discovery and growth.

  1. Do you feel like you’re still processing the reality of your divorce?

  2. How often do you find yourself reeling with thoughts like, "I can’t believe this is happening"?

  3. Do you feel emotionally paralyzed or overwhelmed when thinking about the future?

  4. Do you find it difficult to focus on daily tasks because of the emotional impact of your divorce?

  5. Are you experiencing physical symptoms (like trouble sleeping or loss of appetite) due to the shock of your situation?

  6. Have you started organizing your immediate needs and responsibilities (e.g., housing, finances, legal matters)?

  7. How well are you able to prioritize your physical health (doctor’s visits, self-care routines, etc.) since the divorce?

  8. Do you have a clear plan for handling pressing issues, or do you feel scattered and unsure of where to start?

  9. Are you consciously avoiding toxic or negative influences to focus on your immediate needs?

  10. Have you limited your inner circle to 3 trusted people who truly support you?

  11. Are you actively practicing self-care to regain emotional stability (e.g., journaling, meditation, therapy)?

  12. How confident are you in your ability to manage your finances independently?

  13. Have you developed a positive narrative about your divorce when talking to acquaintances or extended social circles?

  14. Are you able to forgive your ex-spouse and let go of resentment, even if just partially?

  15. Do you feel like you’ve created a stable environment to support your emotional healing?

  16. Are you beginning to think about how to improve or grow in your career or business pursuits?

  17. Do you feel motivated to invest in your personal development (e.g., learning new skills, pursuing hobbies)?

  18. Are you comfortable networking or reconnecting with friends, colleagues, and new social circles?

  19. Do you have the confidence to set boundaries with people who may not support your growth?

  20. Are you actively assessing areas in your life that need change to prepare for a new chapter?

  21. Do you feel excited about embracing your independence and designing a new life for yourself?

  22. Have you set new goals for your financial, physical, emotional, and legal well-being?

  23. Are you actively taking steps to maintain your physical health (exercise, diet, regular check-ups)?

  24. Do you feel confident sharing your divorce journey in a positive, forward-focused way?

  25. Are you content with the person you’re becoming and ready to explore new relationships or opportunities?

SCORING GUIDE

Count how many times you answered each letter:

Mostly 1-4: You may be in the Wake-Up/Shock Stage or the Triage/Prioritize Stage. It’s crucial to focus on stabilizing yourself before moving forward.

Mostly 5-6: You’re likely in the Breathe/Stabilize Stage. Focus on healing, building stability, and finding clarity in your situation.

Mostly 7-8: You’re moving into the Make Yourself Marketable Stage. Start working on improving yourself both professionally and personally.

Mostly 9-10: You’re stepping into the New Independent 2.0 Stage. This is the time to embrace your new life, set exciting goals, and step into your independence with confidence.

Next Steps:

Use your results to reflect on where you are and what you might need to focus on next. Consider journaling about your answers and any areas where you scored lower than you’d like.

Remember:

It's okay to revisit earlier stages if needed; healing is not linear.