Stage 1: Wake-Up/Shock

1. How often do you feel overwhelmed by the reality of your divorce?

o A) Almost always—I'm still in disbelief.

o B) Often, but I'm starting to accept it.

o C) Occasionally—it still hits me sometimes.

o D) Rarely—I’m mostly past that stage.

2. When thinking about the future, do you feel paralyzed with fear or uncertainty?

o A) Yes, I’m completely lost.

o B) I feel uncertain, but I'm trying to figure things out.

o C) I feel somewhat anxious, but have some direction.

o D) No, I’m focused on moving forward.

3. Are you experiencing physical symptoms like trouble sleeping, changes in appetite, or exhaustion?

o A) Yes, all the time—it's affecting my daily life.

o B) Frequently, but I’m managing.

o C) Occasionally, when I’m stressed.

o D) No, I’m feeling more stable now.

4. How easy is it for you to get through daily tasks?

o A) Very difficult—I struggle to function.

o B) Difficult, but I'm pushing through.

o C) Manageable, though I have rough days.

o D) Fairly easy—I’m able to keep up.

5. Do you find yourself constantly thinking about your ex-spouse or replaying past events?

o A) Yes, I can't stop thinking about it.

o B) Often, but I’m trying to move on.

o C) Occasionally—it’s not as consuming.

o D) Rarely—I’ve mostly let go.

Stage 2: Triage/Prioritize

6. How well have you been able to prioritize your immediate needs (housing, finances, legal issues)?

o A) I’m completely overwhelmed and don’t know where to start.

o B) I’ve started, but I’m struggling to stay organized.

o C) I’m making progress, but there’s still work to do.

o D) I feel confident about my plan.

7. Have you sought regular medical check-ups and informed your doctors about the divorce?

o A) No, I haven’t thought about it.

o B) I’ve considered it but haven’t acted yet.

o C) Yes, but not consistently.

o D) Yes, I’ve been proactive about my health.

8. Are you consciously reducing or avoiding toxic influences in your life?

o A) No, I’m still surrounded by negativity.

o B) I’m trying, but it’s hard to let go.

o C) I’ve cut out some negative influences.

o D) Yes, I’m protecting my peace.

9. Have you limited your inner circle to 3 trusted people who fully support you?

o A) No, I talk to too many people about my situation.

o B) I’m starting to narrow it down.

o C) Mostly, but I still overshare at times.

o D) Yes, I’m very selective now.

10. Do you have a positive and clear script when talking to others about your divorce and your ex-spouse?

o A) No, I struggle with what to say.

o B) I have a script but often go off track.

o C) Sometimes—I’m getting better at it.

o D) Yes, I’m confident in what I share.

Stage 3: Breathe/Stabilize

11. How often do you engage in self-care practices like journaling, meditation, or therapy?

o A) Never—I don’t have the energy.

o B) Rarely, but I want to do more.

o C) Occasionally—I try when I can.

o D) Regularly—I make it a priority.

12. Have you been able to take control of your finances independently?

o A) No, I feel completely lost.

o B) I’ve started but still feel overwhelmed.

o C) I’m gaining control, though it’s challenging.

o D) Yes, I feel confident about my finances.

13. When talking to acquaintances about your divorce, do you use a positive narrative?

o A) No, I often end up venting.

o B) Sometimes, but it’s hard to stay positive.

o C) Mostly, but it depends on my mood.

o D) Yes, I always aim for positivity.

14. How much progress have you made in letting go of resentment and forgiving your ex-spouse?

o A) None—I still feel angry.

o B) Some, but I hold onto grudges.

o C) I’m getting there—it’s a work in progress.

o D) A lot—I feel more at peace.

15. How stable do you feel in your current environment (home, work, relationships)?

o A) Very unstable—I’m constantly stressed.

o B) Somewhat unstable, but I’m working on it.

o C) Generally stable, but with occasional setbacks.

o D) Very stable—I feel grounded.

Stage 4: Make Yourself Marketable in Your Business and Personal Life

16. Are you starting to think about enhancing your career or business skills?

o A) No, I’m not ready to focus on that yet.

o B) I’ve thought about it but haven’t taken steps.

o C) I’m exploring options but haven’t committed.

o D) Yes, I’m actively working on it.

17. Are you investing in your personal development (like taking courses, exploring hobbies)?

o A) No, I don’t have the energy.

o B) I want to but haven’t made the time.

o C) Occasionally—I’m trying to fit it in.

o D) Yes, I’m fully engaged in self-improvement.

18. How comfortable do you feel with reconnecting socially or networking?

o A) I avoid it altogether.

o B) I’m hesitant but trying to ease into it.

o C) I’m comfortable in some situations.

o D) Very comfortable—I’m eager to connect.

19. Are you setting boundaries with people who drain your energy?

o A) No, I still let people overstep.

o B) I’m working on it, but it’s hard.

o C) I’ve started setting some boundaries.

o D) Yes, I’m firm with my boundaries.

20. Are you actively identifying areas in your life that need change to start fresh?

o A) No, I feel stuck.

o B) I’ve thought about it, but it’s overwhelming.

o C) I’m working on it step by step.

o D) Yes, I’m excited about making changes.

Stage 5: Step Out as the New, Independent 2.0 Version of Yourself

21. Do you feel excited about designing a new life and embracing your independence?

o A) No, I’m still too scared.

o B) I’m interested but unsure how to start.

o C) I’m starting to feel hopeful.

o D) Yes, I’m ready to embrace the future.

22. Have you set clear goals for your emotional, physical, and financial well-being?

o A) No, I haven’t thought that far ahead.

o B) I have some goals, but they’re not clear.

o C) I’ve started outlining goals.

o D) Yes, I have a clear action plan.

23. Are you taking steps to prioritize your physical health (e.g., exercise, diet, doctor’s visits)?

o A) No, I’ve neglected it completely.

o B) Occasionally, but not consistently.

o C) I’m making progress, but it’s slow.

o D) Yes, I’m fully committed to my health.

24. Do you feel confident speaking about your divorce journey in a positive way?

o A) No, it’s still too painful.

o B) I’m trying, but it’s hard to stay positive.

o C) Mostly, but I have off days.

o D) Yes, I’m proud of how far I’ve come.

25. Are you genuinely content with who you are becoming and open to new relationships or opportunities?

o A) Not at all—I still have a lot of healing to do.

o B) I’m starting to feel better about myself.

o C) I’m gaining confidence but still hesitant.

o D) Yes, I’m excited for what’s next.